Dating and Relationship Advice

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Inspired by some poor choices by several of my close friends, I’ve decided to start a list of dating advice I’d like to share with my daughter. Dating, you’d say? Anna is only 4! Well, it’s probably a bit early, but you have to start introducing and modeling these values to kids early so it becomes natural to them.

For the purposes of this post I will assume Anna will date guys, but she is free to choose her own love life and these points will be applicable to either sex, so just switch up the pronouns when necessary.

  1. What is love? Love is an emotion we feel when there is a strong attraction and/or personal attachment. As your relationship evolves, you will fall in and out of love/infatuation with one another. That’s why it is important to find a friend you enjoy spending time with. With a best friend as partner you will continually find traits of their character to love and respect.
  2. The friend test. Meet his friends. Their behavior will tell you a lot about the person you are dating. Be careful with a person who has no friends… Introduce him to your own friends and see how well he blends in. Ideally, you don’t want to make sacrifices and choose between your partner or friends.
  3. Meet his parents. The relationship he has with his own parents will tell you a lot about your future union. See how the parents interact with each other. We all learn behaviors from our parents and environment in which we grow up.
  4. Kids and animals. Test out your partner around animals and children. Babysit or petsit together with him. His attitude towards someone else’s babies will show you how they are likely to behave with their own kids and family.
  5. Observe behavior rather than listen to the words. Many people say great things about their intentions but never actiually act on them. You really need a partner who will walk the talk, someone you can trust.
  6. Benefit of the doubt. It is important to remember that no one is perfect. Not even you! It is silly to expect it from others and vice versa. If something doesn’t work out don’t rush to make judgements, start by asking your partner for their side of the story. Often enough our minds come to the scariest conslusions based on the limited information we have. Allowing someone to explain their actions may defeat your fears and save a healthy relationship. Of course, if you are not convinced by their story, you can seriously consider the benefits of staying in such relationship.
  7. Don’t be afraid to pull the plug. Everyone will agree that relationships are a lot of work. However, if after putting in a lot of time and effort you are still not happy with the result, pull the plug! Take charge of your life and go find someone who will make you happy. Don’t waste your time being unhappy.
  8. “Must haves” list. It’s not what you’re thinking! Not the skin, hair or eye color; not the body type or clothing style; not thefinancial status, etc. It’s the list of things that matter to you the most. For me it was my partner’s stand on politics, religion, family, ethics, abuse, and understanding or at the very minimum interest towards my culture. These are the things that shape our life together and I would not compromise on.
  9. Ask the tough questions to check-off your “must have” list. And do it soon! Before your relationship becomes too involved ask everything that matters to you the most. Don’t be afraid to be true to yourself. Afterall, you have nothing to lose, you’ve only known him for a few dates…
  10. Build trust. Openly state to your wisely chosen partner that you trust him with your heart and ask him to protect it. In return promise to protect his heart from breaking. If two people care about each other there is no room for jealousy. If you feel jealous or threatened by your partner’s behavior, communicate it in a calm manner. He may not be aware he is causing you pain and allow him to correct his behavior. If it happens again or he is ignoring your feelings by trying to convince you that it’s all in your head… pull the plug! This relationship is not worth your time… It is impossible to trust someone who does not respect your feelings.
  11. Zero tolerance for any kind of abuse. There are many forms of abuse: physical, mental or substance, etc.; and in our family we don’t tolerate either. Be straight and open about it in the beginning before any signs show. Most likely, anyone not acting in good faith will disappear on their own. Or else, pull the plug! Life is too short to live in misery.dating-and-relationship-advice-love-friends
  12. Trust your gut. You have a beautiful gift of intuition. It will guide you through life and love, often very discretely. If you’re still unsure, ask opinions of your best friends and family who will always have the best intentions for you. Regardless of all our opinions, the decision is yours. We will support you no matter what, because we love you and we are your family!

This will be an ongoing list, but hope to have some solid advice for Anna when she grows up and begins to date. As parents we will not be able to protect her from kissing frogs; however, this list will set a good foundation for her to start making wise decisions on her own.

I value your opinions. Please share if you have anything to add to this list?

Chicken Plov (Rice Pilaf)

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When I was a child our next door neighbors made this amazing Uzbek Plov (Rice Pilaf). The smell of spices and flavors made even the pickiest eaters hungry. I can already smell it as I am writing!

Plov (pilaf) is a perfect mixture of protein, grains and vegetables – great for a healthy diet and easy way to get your child to eat several food groups in one serving. Enjoy this amazing recipe your guests and whole family will love!

VIDEO – https://www.magisto.com/video/IAMRNAZURm0tXwVgCzE

Ingredients:

  • Meat: Organic Chicken Thighs (boneless and skinless) (2.5-3 lbs = 1-1.5 kg) or traditional lamb
  • Grain: Organic Indian Basmati white rice (32 oz = 2 lbs = 905 g)
  • Vegetables:
    • 1 onion
    • 10 large carrots (shredded)
    • 2 garlic heads (used whole)
  • Grapeseed oil or any other vegetable oil
  • Spices: salt, pepper, cumin, coriander, 2-3 bay leaves, and 3 whole cloves
  • Optional: scallions
  • Cookware: Enameled Cast Iron Dutch Oven or you can try a regular pan or a crock pot

Prep Time: 15 minutes
Cook Time: 2.5-3 hours

Directions:

  1. Mince 1 onion and sauté it in a large amount of grapeseed oil (~8 oz) on high heat.
  2.  Add 2.5 – 3 lbs of diced chicken thighs. Boil out all chicken broth (juice).
  3. Add shredded carrots. Boil out all liquid. ~ 25 minutes from the beginning of cooking.
  4. Add 1 liter (33 oz) of boiling water.
  5. Add spices to taste: salt, pepper, cumin, coriander, 2-3 bay leaves, and 3 whole cloves.
  6. Cut off the bottoms of the garlic heads and add whole garlic heads to pot.
  7. Cover with the lid and set heat to medium. Cook for ~10 minutes.
  8. Wash Indian Basmati white rice. Add it evenly on top of the mixture and cover with additional 1 liter (33 oz) of boiling water.
  9. Turn heat to high and boil with open lid for a total of 12-15 minutes. When the water starts to seep down into rice (~7-10 minutes), turn heat to medium and cover with a lid.
  10. After cooking rice for the above mentioned 15 minutes take the pot off the heat, cover rice with a porcelain plate, cover with the lid, wrap it into a towel and a thick blanket. Let it sit for 0.5-2 hours.
  11. Optional: mince scallions and add on top of Plov.
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Bon Appetite!

Printable PDF version is at http://momonlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/07/Chicken-Plov.pdf

Confident is the new sexy. Empower your daughters to follow their dreams.

Once a must-have for every girl, lately Barbie seemed to have lost its attractiveness and has been criticized for gender stereotyping or lack of career ambition. Until their new ad campaign “Imagine the Possibilities”.
The ad features 5 girls in real-life professional settings. Then hidden cameras capture reactions of adults to these girls’ ambitious dreams. The college students meet their new young professor talking about human brain; veterinarian patients meet a vet who thinks cats can fly. With their new coach a professional soccer team learns to kick their “knees up like a unicorn”. Awaiting passengers at the airport learn about a young business lady’s “fantastic day in the office”. While many others enjoy the most adorable guided tour at the Natural History Museum by the youngest guide to date.
The video promotes open-play and self-discovery. It’s empowering and touching. Confidence in own abilities is the new sexy!

This Christmas and Always! Home means nothing without you.

The message is that Family is everything; and Home means nothing without Family. The commercial shows a single grandfather, who misses his children and grandchildren several Christmases in a row. Kids are too busy with their lives, and although they don’t forget to call, a warm loving hug would be a million ways better. It’s heart-breaking to see the old man eat Christmas dinner all by himself next to a well-trimmed Christmas tree year after year. Until one day, we see his kids – a young businessman in Asia, a busy mom of three, and a doctor – receive a notice of descent… And suddenly the world stops for them and they all promptly gather at their childhood home. Only to find their father sitting alive at the dining table with Christmas dinner served. The old man had to take extreme measures to bring his busy family together at least! Fortunately the family will have many more fun Christmases together. But for the rest of us, this is a great reminder of the importance of family.
The soundtrack song is called “Dad” by Supreme Music featuring Neele Ternes.

The Elf on the Shelf is ALIVE! And He is Adorable!

Alan Lawrence, a father of six from Utah (one of whom has Down syndrome), and his 4-month old son Rockwell take the fun Christmas tradition to the next level. Rockwell stars in the “New Adventures of the Elf on the Shelf”, while his dad directs and documents these mischievous quests. This quick reel features Elf eating spaghetti with his hands; gift wrapping the toilet; throwing marshmallows at dad eating breakfast cereal; peaking at dad taking a shower; playing a game with a dinosaur; taking selfies with dolls; meeting new dolls while strolling in his red toy car; sneaking cookies into VCR; and simply chilling on the mantle. Lawrence’s wife designed the Elf’s bright red costume. You can see more of the Elf’s adventures on Alan’s personal blog – That Dad Blog.

Kids’ Favorite Educational Toys by Age

Thanksgiving is about all the things we are grateful for. Regardless of all other successes, family and especially kids are usually at the top of our lists. It’s amazing how much light and laughter they bring into our lives. I wish everyone to experience this bliss!

If you’re super organized, November is also a great month to do your Christmas shopping with all the wonderful Black Friday and Cyber Monday deals. However, my heads starts spinning from all of the choices, especially for kids!

Choosing a gift for a child is never easy! When possible, I prefer educational toys which will engage curious brains, develop their motor skills, and provide hours of fun. Here are a few of my favorite budget-friendly gifts for kids by age groups.

0-2 years old

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  • Helps develop baby’s tactile senses
  • 6 easy-to-grab textured balls
  • Great for gross motor skills
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  • Learning ABCs, letters, colors, and animals
  • Manufacturer replaces lost pieces FREE
  • Compact, portable, machine-washable
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First vTech Toys

  • Rescue your real tech gadgets by giving him his own set (keys, cell phone, remote control)
  • Trilingual, English, Spanish and French
  • 4 games modes, lots of fun with lights, sounds, and colors
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LeapFrog Shapes And Sharing Picnic Basket

  • Explore shapes, colors, numbers, and manners
  • Perfect picnic set for two to teach your child to share
  • Fun fill-and-spill toy
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LeapFrog Peek-A-Shoe Octopus

  • Explore cause and effect
  • Learn numbers and colors along with fun songs
  • Develops gross motor skills and hand-eye coordination
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Fishing in the Tub

  • Develops hand-eye coordination
  • Improves gross and fine motor skills
  • Includes fishing pole with attached plastic rope and hook and 4 foam fish

3-5 years old

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Beach Sand Toys

  • 1 zippered bag for convenient storage
  • 15 pieces (bucket with a handle , shovel and rake, watering can, sand sifter (bucket cover), 10 molds)
  • Hours of creative fun
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USA Map in the Tub

  • Learn about US geography while soaking in the tub!
  • 74 float and stick foam puzzle pieces
  • Includes all (50) states, weather and landmark pieces and storage bag
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On The Go Water Bundle

  • Explore numbers, alphabet, animals, and colors
  • Compact, reusable and mess-free
  • Great for fine motor skills and early writing skills
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Opposites Puzzles

  • Learn opposite concepts in pictures and words
  • 24 two-piece puzzles, 48 pieces
  • Develops hand-eye coordination and fine motor skills
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Play Kitchen

  • Improves gross and fine motor skills
  • Realistic burners with lights and sounds
  • Microwave, oven, refrigerator, and dishwasher, plus 22 play accessories
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Tool Workshop

  • Improves gross and fine motor skills
  • 50 piece accessory set
  • Includes an electric drill, 2 drill bits, 8 screws, 8 nuts, saw, hammer, pliers, adjustable wrench, screw driver and 17 “wood” pieces, bins and jars for storage, spring action vise and pretend shop vacuum

6-8 years old

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Spot It

  • Award-winning game of visual perception for 2-8 players
  • Between any two cards there is always one matching symbol
  • Develops focus, visual perception skills, speech-language skills, and fine motor skills
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Melissa & Doug Standing Easel

  • Encourages fine motor skills and creative expression
  • Stand-up easel for painting, coloring, and lettering
  • Includes dry-erase board, chalkboard, locking paper-roll holder, child-safe paper cutter, 4 easy-clip grips and 2 large plastic trays
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Monster High Girl’s Bike

  • Improves balance and foot-eye coordination
  • Includes training wheels
  • Boosts self-esteem and sense of independence
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Hasbro Bop It

  • Encourages focus and quick reaction
  • Promotes coordination
  • Fun to play alone or with friends
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Lanard Toys Bubble Rocket

  • Fun and exciting outdoor toy
  • Lightweight plastic projectile soaring through the air, leaving a trail of bubbles
  • Teaches cause and effect, while entertaining younger siblings
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Pie Face Game

  • Take your chance on a pie roulette
  • Fun for the whole family
  • Includes I pie thrower, 1 throwing arm, 2 handles, chin rest, splash guard mask, spinner and sponge

9-10 years old

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K’NEX 375 Piece Deluxe Building Set

  • Perfect for practicing building skills
  • Provides hours of fun and endless designs
  • Great product for creative minds
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SmartLab Toys That’s Gross Science Lab

  • 26 gross experiments for hours of fun
  • Fun and educational chemistry facts
  • Use household items in these exciting experiments for kid of all ages
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Perplexus

  • 3D challenging labyrinth contained within a sphere
  • 100 exciting barriers
  • Easy to use, but hard to master
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Thames & Kosmos Crystal Growing

  • 15 fun crystal growing experiments
  • Design your own shapes and colors
  • Learn about geometry and structure of crystals
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Thames & Kosmos Electricity and Magnetism

  • 62 easy experiments with snap-together blocks
  • Explore the relationship between electricity and magnetism
  • Experiment with a motor and electromagnet
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Passport To Culture Game

  • Travel the globe while testing your knowledge of world cultures
  • Challenge your CQ (Cultural Intelligence) with questions on people and places, food and drink, world treasures, greetings and gestures, or customs and traditions
  • 2-6 Players/ Teams; 636 Questions; 48 Cultural Scenarios

11-15 years old

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Ringke FUSION Customizable Clear Case for iPhone 6S / 6

  • Drop-protection case
  • Transparent customizable back
  • Superior anti-scratch coating
  • for iPhone 6S / 6 (2015/2014)
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Patterned Coloring Book for Adults

  • 70 pages of whimsical designs
  • Coloring is no longer just for little kids
  • Provides stress relief as well as entertainment
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Money Matters for Teens

  • Teaches kids the value of money
  • Earn, Spend, Save, and Give
  • Smart teens make smart adults
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Boomerang

  • Handcrafted high performance boomerang is fun for kids and adults
  • Boomerang comes back EVERY TIME
  • Gets your teens outside to play
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Quadcopter With HD Camera

  • Create memories with this flying HD camera and 2GB Micro SD card
  • Can be flown indoors and outdoors
  • 7 Minute flight time and 100 minute charge time
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Kindle Fire

  • 7″ IPS display and 1.3 GHz quad-core processor. Rear and front-facing cameras.
  • 8 GB of internal storage. Free unlimited cloud storage for all Amazon content and photos taken with Fire devices. Add a microSD card for up to 128 GB of additional storage.
  • Up to 7 hours of reading, surfing the web, watching videos, and listening to music